Haiti: 3 things I learned about Myself

I never thought that i would be going on  a trip to haiti but when my friend Illean bought up the opportunity to go for her weekend birthday with a bunch of girls i jumped all over it.  A girls trip was what i needed. I hadn’t been out of the country in years or on a real vacation on a beach in 5 years. I know, it’s sad, so i needed this vacation. I was asked to invite others but whenever i said Haiti everyone looked at me like i was upside down. Why Haiti?

 

I even asked myself why Haiti. It’s not really the most talked about vacation spots in the world but i thought it would be a great opportunity to experience a different country, meet new people, eat great food,tan on the beach and surround my myself with the ocean.

 

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Up in the Air noticing the hills and mountains
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The ferry ride to the island… OMG my legs need too much sun. so pale
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Beach bummin… Cause you know i need the sun

 

So I left on a thursday evening and returned home Monday evening. It was a short well worth trip where I was suprised to a few things about myself that I never realized before, all in a different country.

 

  1. The people you travel with can make or break your trip experience if you let it. When I was invited by Illean to go to Haiti she was the only person I knew . The remaining 4 girls were here friends and I did not know them. One of the girls I bumped heads with a few times but I was proud that i didn’t allow it to ruin my trip. The old Caroline would have definitely cried about it as opposed to taking from it that I am soooo sensitive but at the same time resistant.                                                           
  2.  I don’t like alot of sarcasm from people . It makes me look at the person as if they are deep down hurt and they taking things out on me. I take things very personal but found that  although i am sensitive when I feel someone is attacking me I can be a savage and clap back at them (my defensive mechanism).
  3.  I feel fortunate and grateful for what i have. I never realized that the people of Haiti were that poor. I would look out the windows of the airport van and see the little girls walking through a street filled with trash while in the school uniform with the ribbons in her hair to match there uniform but also know that there are no jobs once the people finish school. The people honor the simplest thing that we can take for granted such as having to hand wash there own clothes and hanging them along the side of the road to air dry for the new week. By the countryside the people do appear to be happier because they are surrounded by water, nature and miles of open land. The views can be beautiful.

 

Have you been to Haiti? What was your experience like?

 

XOXO,

Caroline

 

Time to level up?..

Fill in the blank. Being plain jane all my life has gotten me ___________.

 

For me The natural look for me is played out. It’s time for a different look that may involve a little makeup. I never really was in to make up like that but have recently figured it’s time for the grown woman to step her game up. I have been playing around with some mascara, color lipstick for a little bit now but want to go all out by visiting Sephora. The last time i visited Sephora was a few years ago. I know…so embarrassing. I bought some lip gloss but never went back because makeup is honestly an expensive luxury item  to have, I have sensitive acne prone skin, and don’t know two bits about applying makeup. I have no excuse now because I can learn everything on youtube when it come to applying and can go to a dermatologist to control my acne prone skin.

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kisses Xoxo

 

Since my new found interest in wearing makeup I have grown to love a red lip. It adds such pop to my face and outfit. I have even received more attention then the usual makeup free face. I can actually really start loving this attention…

 

What are the ways you have leveled up?

 

XOXO,

 

Caroline

The Big Move & Adjustment: From NY to the Carolina’s

So I moved from new york to north carolina almost 3 years ago and i absolutely love it . I decided to make the transition after my parent moved here 3 years earlier before i did. My father would make the long distance call wanting me to move here and find work. Id say i was lured in a way lol. I was just getting to know brooklyn and loved it so far after moving from Harlem. The restaurants, museums, shops and everything else that make brooklyn cool. How can i leave that to live in the country surrounded by nothing but trees. But wasnt i surprised by what living here meant for me.

So i made the decision to move. Once I moved from new york to north carolina i can say honestly that it was hard for me to adjust. It took a while. Like a year. I wasnt working, didnt have my own transportation, i instead had to wait on my father to take me around, no friends. I was depressed for a while until i was able to get on my feet. When i say on my feet i mean working fulltime with a steady income, having my own car and able to get around, and new friends. My first job was working part time in a retail store until I found something better. I was so miserable because it wasnt enough money to get by and also i worked with a group of coworker swhere i felt i didn’t fit in with. I was laughed at because i was different. I carry myself well, im not interested in laying around smoking weed to feel better about myself. They would ask what i do for fun and i would say something as simple as swim. That’s completely foreign to them and they didn’t understand. You wouldn’t believe how happy i was to leave when i was hired fulltime to work for the state. I had finally made it out of there.


Now that i am fulltime i can do the things that i want to do. As a single woman , it was time to now to get out and about and meet new people with goals and ambitions like me. I started my own meetup group on the meetup app where i now host and organize events in the raleigh/ durham area. The whole focus of the group is to living your best life by ways of travel, exploring new restaurants and food, music festivals and concerts and much more which happen to be in the raleigh/durham area of north carolina and beyond. My goal is to highlight things to do and places to go in Raleigh/Durham area ad beyond. Anybody else who decide to also move from new york to north carolina or just plain visiting the area will know hot spots to go to. I have met some good girlfriends so far. I’m still single but trying to put myself out there to be scooped up. As a sorta newbie I have recently been exploring the area of Raleigh /Durham .

Love it so far.

 

XoXo,

 

Caroline